How Do Cats Apologize?

Almost always, Cats are on the list of experts for being mischievous and careless. Many cat owners are ready to swear that their cat was born to create a fuss around their house, while some others believe that their cat just likes to make their lives hard. However, no matter what the complaint or trouble, every cat owner loves their little purr-baby dearly and can’t imagine a life without it. 

That said, I still find many cat owners confused about what their cat is trying to express or how to understand what their cat is feeling. This is especially true when the cat is up to something and later behaves as if it understands what it has done. Most people wonder if their cat is actually trying to say sorry to them or if they are just going crazy. 

All of these thoughts will finally find peace in this article. So, read on.

Basic translations

Before we get into the advanced module of Cat to Human language translation, let’s go through the basics right. Right? 

So, since Cats can’t talk to us directly (at least not yet), we can only do our best to understand what they are trying to express in their own way. A certain sound, a certain body gesture from your cat, can say volumes to you if you pay attention.

For example, when a cat meows, it is asking for something. But when they’re purring, they might be in pain. Did you know that? 

When cats chirp, they are frustrated. Or maybe they found prey and are looking to successfully hunt it. When a cat growls, it could mean it is in fear or is angry. Or perhaps someone invaded what they believe is their territory and therefore aren’t happy. 

A chattering cat is showing excitement while a hissing cat is in fear and could attack, anticipating an attack itself. If your cat caterwauls, which sounds like a shrill, it’s crying, and you need to check on it as soon as possible. A mewl from your cat, though, isn’t a bad sign; it generally means it’s trying to say hi to you. Cute.

Rubbing their body against you is like them showing love to you. Even nudging you with their head or rubbing their face on your body is like showing love. A slow-blinking cat is trying to tell you the same. That it loves you!

So, we know what it’s trying to say generally. Cats can tell you if they’re in pain, need help or if they love someone. But the real question is, how do cats apologize? And before that, can cats feel other’s emotions? Could your cat tell if you are sad or angry? 

Let’s see.

Are cats capable of feeling emotions?

At some point or another, you must have looked at your cat and thought how amazing it must be to not care about anyone else at all. Well, you’re not alone. Every cat owner has had this thought not once but multiple times. Cats do give off the impression that they are careless and independent. But it is not necessarily true. 

While emotions like guilt are too complex for animals like cats to recognize, it’s not that they don’t understand your feelings at all. It may seem that cats are incapable of apologizing or they act depending only on how their mood is. But you will be surprised and happy to know that cats are aware of much more than what we give them credit for. 

While cats are pretty independent and territorial, they can also be compassionate and caring. Research showed that female cats from wild colonies groomed and took care of each other’s kittens as a group or community. So, cats may not need humans around to take care of them, but if your cat considers you to be a part of its social group, then it most probably cares for you. 

Can cats tell if you’re sad?

Of course, like humans, cats can’t point out if you are angry, sad, or frustrated. But it’s not like your cat can’t notice your mood changes at all. Research says that cats can be quite sensitive to the body language and gestures of humans. This means that a change in the pitch of your voice or your walking pace is something your cat may be able to notice. 

The study found that cats acted differently when the cat owners were smiling and laughing instead of when they seemed to be frowning and angry. When the owner was more towards a happy mood, the cat was more likely to portray behaviours that are considered positive in cat language. Purring, rubbing their head or body against the human, or sitting on their lap are some of these behaviours. 

Cats also seem to enjoy spending time with owners who are more cheerful, smile more, or are simply in a more calming mood. 

Do cats know when they did something wrong?

You need to understand that cats are wild animals, after all. Even if they are domesticated and have been for more than hundreds of years now, they still have the instincts of a wild animal. In the wild, no animal feels guilt or sadness for having broken a branch, zooming around, or eating another animal even. 

In the wild, a cat is relatively a small animal. A prey for many as opposed to a hunter for some. This is why cats need to make sure they aren’t falling into a trap when they are in a new environment. Inspecting the new place or thing by sniffing it or nudging by paw are some ways to do that. 

You may look at your new smart speaker as a facility, but to your cat, it’s a new object and unusual at that. Therefore, they must sniff and nudge to make sure it isn’t harmful. 

While this behaviour can’t be stopped completely, you may be able to reduce its frequency if you’ve had your cat since its childhood. In that case, training the cat from an early age may help with this problem. 

How do Cats apologize?

We have established that cats cannot judge or feel complex emotions such as guilt or frustration. Along with that, their instincts don’t exactly go with “feeling guilty” for breaking something. Therefore, we can safely conclude that do not exactly apologize (I know it’s hard to hear, sorry!).

But wait, if cats don’t apologize, why do they behave in ways that make us feel like they understand their mistakes and are simply mischievous or want to say sorry after some time? 

Let me explain.

Behaviours that cat owners seem to believe are ways their cat is guilty or apologizing include running away, hiding, tiptoeing around, or trying to slowly come near the human. Breaks my heart to tell you that these behaviours aren’t signs of your cat feeling guilty or apologizing but trying to save itself from any trouble that the visibly unhappy human may cause. 

If a cat breaks something in the absence of its owner, it doesn’t showcase these same actions. That’s because it isn’t afraid for its survival. When your cat runs away or hides, it’s simply trying to be safe from any attack or other trouble. And when your cat walks around the room, tiptoes, or slowly tries coming near you, it is actually testing the waters. It is making sure you won’t harm it, and it’s safe to be around you again. 

Once they know it’s safe to get near you, you may witness your cat trying to love you, and that is something they are totally capable of. Your cat is now trying to feel safe and warm. It may also re-mark you by rubbing on you or kneading to leave its scent on you. A sign of them reclaiming you. Okay, I think that’s super sweet!

How does a cat tell you they love you?

We all very well know that the way cats shower their love is different from how dogs do. Cats generally tend to be more subtle and silent. A cat may lay on its back and show its belly to you. This is a sign that it trusts you, and you may rub its belly or play with it. A reminder that not all cats like their belly rubbed. Some just like to roll around by themselves, and we need to respect that.

Cats may show their love by licking your face (like they groom their kittens), butting their head, or rubbing their cheeks against you. All of these are ways to leave a scent on you and mark you as safe to be around. From slowly blinking its eyes to biting you (ouch, right?), your cat says “I love you” in many ways. 

Purring and rubbing against you is almost as good as saying, “I love you.” Slow blinks mean a sign of trust, which is also a part of loving someone. Just like us, felines bring their loved ones gifts too. But unlike us, the “gifts” aren’t bought from article shops or ordered online. When your cat brings you a rat or a bird, as much as you’d want to run away, you can try to feel a little warmer because you just received a gift. 

When a cat spends time with you apart from its feeding or playing time, it means that it likes or loves you and likes to be with you. Another amusing thing is that noises made by cats are targeted especially at the humans because cats don’t communicate with “meows” with each other! What else could your cute little baby possibly do to tell you it loves you!

How to forgive a cat?

Okay so, your cat isn’t going to apologize to you (at least not anytime soon), and that can be very frustrating. Especially if it just broke your favourite pottery or knocked your houseplants over. But remembering a few things may help you deal with the anger and frustration better. 

Firstly, your cat is a follower of its instincts and can’t really help it if it has to sharpen its claws at 4 a.m. But getting mad or trying to punish your baby isn’t going to make a difference. In fact, the better the relationship between you two, the better the chances of your cat learning trained behaviors. So, buck up and get working in that direction. 

Secondly, if your cat keeps defying its trained rules (which it once followed), it’s time to check if everything is okay. Check for their cushions, litter box, and other spaces to make sure they are comfortable. Or you may want to check for any injuries or pain in your cat’s body. Try to make your house as cat-friendly as possible. 

Third. Give your cat space and time. Unlike dogs, cats don’t like clinging or hugging too much. So, if you’re trying to forget your anger at it by trying to shower some love, I’m sorry, but you might have to wait. 

Fourthly, talk to your cat. Many cat owners forget this as time passes. But talking to your cat is one of the best ways possible to let your cat know that you’re around, safe and approachable. 

At all times, remain calm for yourself and your cat. Keep it friendly and let your cat come to you by itself. Give it appropriate attention and offer treats or toys to indulge them. 

Remember that you have to teach your cat what you want and don’t want it to do. And for that, you must forgive, be friendly and keep a safe space for it to be comfortable in.

Final words

Cats love their humans, and they will show it to you in different ways but do cats say sorry or apologize? I’m sure, now that you have a better understanding of a cat’s emotional scope and instinctual behaviours, you will be able to gauze better what your cat is trying to really say.